Notes to Dearie, 5 August, 2020

Jeffrey Puukka

5 August, 2020
Anthem Park, Vancouver, Washington

Today’s note to ‘Dearie’ offers a reminder in each hand about two tricky bits of being alive.

WHAT IF.
FORGIVING.

One of the most powerful tools at our disposal is the question “What if…?”

Many of us feel more ease and liberty in our daydreams than our everyday behavior because when we daydream, we are without many of the inhibitions we chain to our ankles in daily life. Often, as soon as we disrupt our day to day business with a brave idea, our mind’s logical nay-sayer swoops in to shut it down, and keep us safe.

Yet, there are important distinctions to be made between what is necessary safety for our well being, and what is comfortable, habitual stagnation.

The next time you find yourself shutting down a “What if” sort of moment, you might ask yourself “Why?”. Listen closely, and try to determine if the feedback you give yourself is actually coming from your own thinking, or if it is the result of baked-in patterns of thought, which may no longer be serving you.

FORGIVING.

Forgiveness can feel difficult.

Forgiveness is not always like a light-switch we turn on or off, but can swell or mellow, moving us–and moving through us–like waves. Sometimes we need to remind ourselves, and that’s alright.

Forgiveness is a choice. Choosing forgiveness does not mean that the pain we experienced must stop mattering. Forgiving ourselves or someone else is a choice we take to empower ourselves, and move forward. Not because our experience is less important, but because we are ready to live and identify with new experiences.

Onward!

-J.P.

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Notes to Dearie, 3 August, 2020

Jeffrey Puukka

3 August, 2020
Uptown Village, Vancouver, Washington

WE DON’T NEED to change ourselves to be happy, although we all have characteristics we wrestle with, or goals we want to achieve. We don’t need the world to change either, although there are definitely challenges in our communities we’d like to see solved.

We can allow ourselves to be happy now. Yet, for us mere mortals, there’s often a funny snag about happiness.

Very often, we mere mortals tend to register happiness through two lenses… the past, and the future.

“I remember I felt so happy back when I was…”, and, “Some day, when I (accomplish this, or have that…) I’ll finally be able to be happy”.

So, think out loud with me…

One strange reason we don’t always register happiness in the here and now is because when we’re happy, we’re engaged and alive in the present moment, and too busy BEING to second guess how we feel.

I wonder if that may reveal something about how we could approach a new day’s opportunities… We can allow for the opportunity of joy by participating in our own lives. Of course, that takes courage.

If we can unload just enough residue and expectation from the worries or grudges we shoulder to approach a new day with neutrality and curiosity, that’s a strong step toward stumbling into opportunities for joy.

Likewise, examining our day for people or experiences to express gratitude for is another excellent tool for extracting joyful nectar hidden in plain sight.

Our life is ours. Perspective makes a difference. Participation matters.

-J.P.

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With so much anxiety, tension, and conflict in the world right now, I’m playing a wee game and scattering some optimism for people to discover. Find a note to ‘Dearie’? That’s from me! All messages are composed, hand written, and unless otherwise noted also placed and photographed by me. If you’ve come across one of my notes, let me know! I’d love to hear how it happened!